Stuck in your head? Do your thoughts take over sometimes?

🔹 You decide when you want to reach out. This means you get support at the moment you need it. Haven’t we been in touch for a while? Your unused days simply remain available for later.

🔹 You’ll be in contact with me, Marloes. I’m here for you when you’re angry, sad, or completely overwhelmed by panic. And I’m here when you have the energy to learn and take steps forward. I lift you up, help you recognize your patterns, and give you insight into how you can grow.

🔹 All of my clients struggle with obsessive thinking, worrying, or OCD, and I have OCD myself. After suffering for 25 years, I decided enough was enough and developed this method. First for myself, and now for you too. My specific OCD themes are retroactive jealousy, relationship OCD, and contamination OCD.

🔹 Through my Bachelor’s degree in Social Work, I learned how to help people who feel stuck in their daily lives. I am also affiliated with the professional association Nederlandse Federatie Gezondheidszorg (NFG).

🔹 We don’t just chat. You’ll also work through a workbook, helping you make the changes you need to let OCD gradually fade into the background.

🔹 Video calls are available if you prefer them, including for a free, no-obligation introductory meeting.

🔹 I can never promise that you’ll recover completely, but I do promise to be there for you every day and teach you what you need to find your way out of this.

Retroactive Jealousy OCD

For at least 25 years, I struggled with retroactive jealousy. Back then, nothing was known about it and you couldn’t easily learn about it the way you can now. Because of that, I never knew that I have OCD. Therapists and psychiatrists mainly focused on building my self-confidence and developing a positive self-image. But after years of working hard on myself, I had that confidence  and I still had RJ.

I struggled with it in every relationship I had. It didn’t matter whether they had 1 ex or 50. It had a huge impact. All of my partners and I suffered because of it. Looking back, I do feel some shame and regret about that. My compulsions? Endless worrying, getting extremely upset, asking countless questions often the same ones, talking about the same things over and over with friends, doing “research” on social media, secretly going through his phone. I did it all.

Then I came to a new realization: for decades, I had tried to make myself feel better by thinking about these things, asking questions and doing research. And all it did was make me feel worse. So the solution couldn’t possibly be there. I wasn’t working as a therapist yet and I also didn’t know that what I was doing were compulsions. I only knew that I had tried those things for long enough and that I needed to stop.

Not doing something is relatively easy. You just don’t do it, no matter how badly you want to. But how do you not think something? I came up with different exercises and slowly learned to stop constantly investigating or trying to solve my thoughts, and instead recognize them and let them pass. Later, I discovered that what I had been doing all those years were compulsions and that my retroactive jealousy was part of OCD.